N8tivegirl

The Night I Told God I Hated Him

There was a night I told God I hated Him.

I didn’t whisper it.

I didn’t soften it.

I said it the way a broken heart says things when it no longer cares about being reverent.

I had lost too much.

My marriage.

My baby.

My dignity.

My sense of safety.

My version of “happily ever after.”

And somewhere between the rape, the miscarriage, and watching the man I loved walk away without looking back — I decided God was responsible.

Because He was there.

And He didn’t stop it.

That was my argument.

If You are all-powerful, why didn’t You intervene?

If You are love, why did You let it happen?

If You are Father, why did I feel so abandoned?

I didn’t want sermons.

I didn’t want Scripture.

I didn’t want well-meaning Christians telling me “God has a plan.”

I wanted my life back.

So I bargained.

I threatened.

I numbed myself.

I tried to be my own god.

I even told Him I would never submit.

What I didn’t realize then was this:

Anger at God is still a form of engagement.

Silence would have meant I was gone.

But I was still talking to Him.

Even in rage.

Even in accusation.

Even in profanity-laced prayers.

And here is the part that undid me years later:

He didn’t leave.

He didn’t retaliate.

He didn’t shame me.

He didn’t withdraw His presence.

He waited.

Gently.

The way only a Father who understands grief can wait.

I used to think surrender meant pretending I wasn’t angry.

It doesn’t.

Surrender began the moment I admitted I was furious.

Healing began the moment I stopped bargaining and started being honest.

I didn’t need theology.

I didn’t need religion.

I didn’t need a deal.

I needed Presence.

Looking back now, I can see something I couldn’t see then:

God didn’t take my dreams.

People made choices.

Bodies failed.

Sin had consequences.

The world is broken.

But He was the only One who stayed.

And if I’m honest?

The night I told Him I hated Him…

was the beginning of the night I finally met Him for real.

Because faith that has never wrestled

has never matured.

And love that survives anger

is real love.

If you are angry at God today,

tell Him.

He already knows.

He would rather have your rage

than your distance.

And if you are sitting in the dark wondering if He left —

He didn’t.

He is closer than you think.

Waiting.

Not offended.

Not afraid of your honesty.

Just waiting for you to let Him sit with you in it.

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