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Covenant, Not Fantasy

What Love Is Meant to Hold

We were taught to imagine love as a feeling.

A spark.

A moment.

A story that begins with attraction and somehow sustains itself on emotion alone.

But covenant was never meant to be sustained by feeling.

It was meant to be sustained by God.

Fantasy says love is proven by chemistry.

Covenant says love is revealed by commitment.

From the beginning, God did not create marriage as a performance.

There was no audience in Eden.

No vows spoken aloud.

No applause.

There was only presence.

Adam and Eve became one before they were ever tested by storms.

Before betrayal.

Before disappointment.

Before shame entered the world.

Their union was not built on attraction—it was built on alignment.

Two becoming one was never just physical.

It was spiritual first.

This is where so many love stories fracture—not because love was absent, but because God was left at the altar.

Invited to the ceremony, but not welcomed into the marriage.

Celebrated on the wedding day, but ignored in the everyday.

Covenant love does not ask, “How does this make me feel?”

It asks, “How does this reflect God?”

It is not sustained by passion alone, but by purpose.

Not maintained by perfection, but by surrender.

God designed marriage to be a reflection, not a replacement.

A living testimony of His covenant with humanity.

A space where two people grow together under His covering—not ahead of Him, and not apart from Him.

Adam did not complete Eve.

God did.

And Eve was not created to fulfill Adam’s fantasies.

She was created to walk beside him, carrying the breath of God within her.

When love begins with God:

It survives disappointment. It weathers storms. It grows deeper instead of brittle. It holds when feelings waver.

This is not the kind of love that looks perfect on the outside.

It is the kind that stays rooted when the winds come.

Covenant does not mean the absence of struggle.

It means the presence of God within the struggle.

It is two imperfect people choosing daily to remain aligned with a perfect God.

Fantasy fades when tested.

Covenant deepens.

And love that begins with God

does not collapse under pressure—

it endures.

What God joins together, He also sustains—through every season, every storm, every becoming.