N8tivegirl

What I Know About Love Now

There was a time when love felt like something I had to explain.

I felt the need to defend it, define it, or justify it—both to others and to myself. Love felt fragile then, as if one wrong word or misunderstanding could undo it. I thought love needed clarity before it could be trusted.

I know better now.

What I know about love now is this:

Love was never meant to replace God, compete with God, or redefine God.

Love was meant to flow from Him.

Love does not demand certainty before it shows up.

It does not require agreement to remain present.

It does not use shame as proof of faithfulness.

The loudest voices in my life once told me that love had conditions—that it was earned through conformity, withheld through difference, and revoked through misunderstanding. But the more I learned to listen for God’s voice, the more I realized something important:

God’s love does not sound like accusation.

It does not whisper fear.

It does not isolate.

It does not demand rejection in order to prove holiness.

God’s love is steady.

It is patient.

It is willing to walk with people through uncertainty rather than abandon them at the first sign of discomfort.

What I know now is that loving someone does not mean I am abandoning my faith.

It means I trust God enough to let Him be God.

I am not called to manage someone else’s journey.

I am not called to resolve every question.

I am not called to control outcomes that belong to Him.

I am called to love.

To stay soft when fear tries to harden my heart.

To keep the door open when judgment would rather close it.

To believe that God is still working—even when I don’t understand how.

Love doesn’t require me to have all the answers.

It requires me to remain present.

And perhaps the truest form of faith is not found in certainty, but in trust—trust that God knows what He is doing, trust that His love reaches farther than my understanding, and trust that He is able to guide every heart far better than I ever could.

What I know about love now is this:

Love is not my burden to define.

Love is not my authority to control.

Love is my invitation to reflect the heart of God—without replacing Him.

And that, finally, is enough.