N8tivegirl

Becoming Anchored

Learning to Stay When the World Rushes You Forward

If there is one lesson life teaches us all, it is this:

we do not arrive at the same time.

The world is obsessed with arrival—

who made it first,

who climbed faster,

who reached the top before everyone else.

But the truth is, the journey is far more meaningful when you stop rushing the ending.

You are not late.

You are not behind.

You are becoming.

There will be seasons when it feels like everyone else is moving faster than you. Seasons when comparison whispers that you should be further along by now. But anchoring yourself means resisting the urge to sprint toward a finish line that was never meant to be rushed.

Becoming anchored is learning to stay grounded while life unfolds.

Along the way, there will be sacrifices.

Some relationships will not survive your growth.

Some seasons will demand letting go of what once felt familiar.

That is not failure.

That is formation.

I often tell my children this:

In your twenties, be a little selfish—explore, learn, savor life.

In your thirties, you begin to settle—gathering wisdom from the mistakes of your twenties, learning what matters and what doesn’t.

Mistakes will happen.

Failures will come.

But those moments do not disqualify you—they anchor you.

They become part of your testimony.

Part of your becoming.

Anchoring yourself means trusting that God is just as present in the process as He is in the promise. That every delay, every detour, every lesson learned the hard way is shaping you into who He has always known you to be.

You are not wandering.

You are being rooted.

And roots take time.