N8tivegirl

Becoming secure

Becoming: Secure

(When Identity Is No Longer Up for Debate)

There is a kind of security that doesn’t come from certainty—

it comes from knowing who you are.

Not because life finally worked out.

Not because people stayed.

Not because prayers were answered the way you hoped.

But because somewhere along the way, you stopped needing permission to exist as you are.

Becoming secure didn’t happen overnight for me.

It came after disappointment.

After loss.

After learning that people can love you one season and misunderstand you the next.

It came when I realized that not everyone will see me clearly—

and that doesn’t mean I’m unclear.

Security is no longer explaining myself to people who are committed to misunderstanding me.

It’s not shrinking to make others comfortable.

It’s not performing for approval.

It’s standing rooted in the truth that I am known by God—even when I am not known by people.

When you become secure, rejection doesn’t destroy you.

Criticism doesn’t define you.

Silence doesn’t scare you.

You stop chasing validation and start resting in identity.

You don’t need to prove your worth—

because you’ve already settled it.

Security isn’t arrogance.

It’s peace.

And peace comes when you finally believe that who God says you are

is more important than who others think you should be.

I am becoming secure.

Still becoming.

Reflection Question

Where am I still seeking validation instead of resting in who God says I am?