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Love — it is one of the greatest gifts God has given us, yet one of the hardest to understand. Many of us have been in love and been hurt, and yet through it all, we grow stronger and wiser. This is a time of self-renewal — a season to rediscover the beauty of love as God intended it.

And for those who have not yet experienced love, I ask you this question:

How do you protect a muscle that was created to flex, extend, and strengthen with use? The heart was designed to love. Even when broken, it learns, heals, and grows.

There are hidden places inside a broken heart where new opportunities can be found. Yet some of us turn those places into permanent dwellings of self-denial. What good is subdued passion held at bay? Love is meant to be expressed, not imprisoned.

Fortresses come to mind — walls built to protect ourselves from pain, yet they also keep us from experiencing the very things that make us human. Love is a gift — the greatest of all — one that involves sacrifice, patience, and grace. For those who are inspired by love, its rewards are immeasurable.

Such love — unconditional, sacrificial, enduring — is what the world craves today. It is the light of God, reflected in our humanity like the brilliance of a gem catching the sun.

“We come to love not by finding a complete individual, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”

The Beauty of Biblical Love

Throughout the Song of Solomon, we see the beauty of two hearts equally invested — a bride and groom who honor, cherish, and uplift each other. Neither is above the other. They are truly two becoming one, united in purpose and sustained by mutual love.

Their love is full of submission, sacrifice, humility, affirmation, patience, and dedication — a beautiful reflection of what God desires marriage to be.

In this relationship, each person finds identity and value not in the other person, but because of the other person — as both are completed before God.

Genesis 2:23–24

“This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

God’s Design for Lasting Love

Do you want to love passionately, be loved in return, and see your love grow through the years? God wants that for you too.

The Song of Solomon is His blueprint for marriage — showing us how to seek a godly partner, develop intimacy, resolve conflict, and fan the flames of passion through time.

No man can truly love a woman if he doesn’t first understand his relationship with God. For love flows from Him — we cannot give what we have not received.

Some Christians shy away from the romance of Solomon’s song, but the truth is, God is the author of love — both spiritual and physical. The best kind of love is unconditional love. It says, I love you, period.

Not because of what you do, or how you look, or what you can offer — but because you are mine.

Unconditional love sacrifices self for the good of another. It mirrors God’s love for us: patient, kind, and steadfast.

Don’t Rush Love

Love is not a feeling alone; it’s a commitment — a decision to honor and protect what God has joined together.

Biblical love seeks the highest good of the one loved. That’s why Solomon warns us not to awaken love before its time.

The love that leads to matrimony requires maturity and divine timing.

Wait until God awakens it. Wait until He brings the right one — someone who reflects the qualities of godly love: adaptability, empathy, emotional stability, patience, strong communication, and faithfulness.

The greatest need of every human being is to be appreciated. And any union is strengthened through mutual admiration.

Intimacy: The Holy Expression of Love

The Song of Solomon has been called the most passionate story in the Bible. Yet, at its heart, it is about holy intimacy — a love that connects body, heart, and spirit.

Men, remember: the most sensitive part of a woman’s being is her mind and heart. True intimacy begins there.

Sex, as designed by God, is not just a physical act — it is a spiritual expression of unity. “Making love” is not merely an encounter; it is an experience that continues long after the moment has passed. It’s built throughout the day — through affection, kind words, shared dreams, and emotional connection.

Before marriage, you discovered your partner’s favorite things, dreams, and hopes. After marriage, that discovery should never stop. Her dreams become your dreams, and your goals become her hopes.

One of the greatest challenges in marriage is disillusionment — when expectations fade and reality sets in. This is when love must choose to act. Instead of waiting to receive love, give it. Learn your spouse’s needs and meet them with grace.

Sex was never made unholy. It was God’s creation from the beginning — meant to be cherished, celebrated, and enjoyed within the sacred bond of marriage.

Keeping Love Alive

The Song of Solomon offers timeless wisdom for keeping passion alive:

• Be intentional.
• Try new ways to connect emotionally and physically.
• Communicate openly and often.
• Make time for one another — even simple moments like a walk or picnic can rekindle connection.

If you can afford a getaway, take one. If not, find ways to create your own “little heaven” wherever you are. What matters most is the investment of time and care.

Two partners who grow closer to God will naturally grow closer to each other — spirit to spirit, mind to mind, body to body.

True Love Never Fails

God gave us the gift of love to hold us together.

Every problem in relationships stems from the limits we place on that love — but God’s love knows no limits.

The mistakes of the past are behind you. Move forward in forgiveness and grace.

Unconditional love bears no grudges. It is patient and kind, slow to anger, and quick to forgive.

It endures all things, believes all things, and hopes all things.

True love never fails.

Reflection

Take time today to pray over your relationships — past, present, or future. Ask God to renew your heart, to heal what’s been broken, and to teach you how to love without limits. May His perfect love flow through you, bringing wholeness and peace.

“We come to love not by finding a complete individual, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”

— Valrelyn

A Prayer for Love

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for being the author of love itself. Teach us to love with purity, patience, and purpose.

Help us to see our relationships as opportunities to reflect Your heart.

May every love story we live or long for be written by Your hand, guided by Your wisdom, and sealed by Your grace.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Written by Valrelyn — a believer, storyteller, and woman learning to love and heal through the eyes of God’s grace. Her reflections, shared through the “Healing in Broken Places” series, invite others to rediscover hope, wholeness, and the kind of love that mirrors the heart of God.